Do you spend your time on what really matters? People often go home from work and say they’re too tired to do anything. That they need to relax and then they complain that their job is killing them. I used to hear this all the time when I was active with my private psychotherapy practice. It was hard getting people out of this mindset. Helping people to see they could be the architects of their own destiny. Too often it seems as if life happens to us. I say we should look at things differently. Life doesn’t happen to us, we happen to life! We have a chance to make an impact. Yes, it’s hard work to change things sometimes, especially when you feel tired or drained. I’ve been there too. I dealt with helping save kids lives during a suicide contagion as the incident commander and was on call 24/7 for two years, I know what it’s like to be exhausted, tired, like you’ve got nothing left in the tank, and you know what? That’s ok. Take some time to recover. Get your feet back under you. Take care of yourself, but not to just to go back to business as usual, take care of yourself to get more energy, more happiness, more of what you want and then help others do the same. You can do this, that’s part of what this site and blog are all about.
So, let me talk about how we spend our time for a minute. Take a look at your schedule, look at how you spend your time, keep track of it. Do you spend your time on activities that you value, that reward you and your loved ones, that add something to your life or add long-term value? Or do you numb yourself through Facebook games, or drinking, or other activities that work in the short-term, but have no long term payoff? If you do, well, welcome to the land of being human. I’ve done those things too, but I also look at my schedule, analyze how I spend my time, and on a regular basis work on spending more time on high-value activities and less on time wasters. Think about it this way, and this might seem a bit harsh, but when you die, when someone is speaking about you at your funeral, do you want them to say “John or Jane was a great person, they were really good at (insert internet game here) and they always were up for going out drinking etc.”, or do you want to hear “John or Jane was a kind, caring, loving person, who created a successful business and provided for their children and grandchildren? They were able to create a legacy that will continue long past their death. They will be missed.”
Well, you get the point. Here’s a great video that’s just a few minutes long that helps summarize some of these points.